Making your lover your number one priority

Nurturing a successful romantic relationship or marriage means finding time to spend with your significant other, but in today’s busy world it can be difficult to balance a hectic career and other obligations with your responsibilities as a romantic partner. Sure, you may think that you’re spending enough time with your lover and that they know that your romance is the most important thing in your life. But are you certain of that?

Reiterating to your sweetheart that your romantic relationship is your number one priority–even more important than your career or other obligations that might keep you away–could be one of the romantic ideas that you need to take to build a better romance. Many of us take for granted that our lover knows that they are our “number one,” but sharing a romantic partner with a busy career or hectic schedule can sometimes make a person feel second best.

You might make a point to romantically hug your lover as soon as you get home from work or to spend as much free time with them on the weekends, but simply telling them that they are the most important priority in your life is just as important.

How you tell them is up to you. Whether it’s with words, in a card or romantic note, or with a romantic text message, letting your lover know that they are the most important thing in your life will work wonders for your loving relationship.

Your career or other important duties may keep you away from your lover more than you would like, and your romantic partner probably knows that you have certain obligations that your have to fulfill in order to be a good parent, role model or spouse. But when is the last time you told your lover that they are much more important to you than anything else in the world?

It’s a simple thing to say, but you’ll be amazed at how much more fulfilling your romantic relationship will be if you tell your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband that they’re your number one priority. Let them know . . . today!

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When is the last time you kissed your lover on the cheek?

Before you roll your eyes at the title of this post, remember that frequent small, romantic ideas are far more important to building better relationships and marriages than infrequent, elaborate gestures like expensive gifts or vacations. And giving your significant other a simple, heartfelt kiss on the cheek is an extremely effective, easy way to show you love them many times a day.

While many people might think of a kiss on the cheek as something a parent or grandparent gives to a child, you shouldn’t be afraid to use a quick peck on the cheek to express your feelings to your lover when time or circumstances don’t allow for anything more. When we’re in a hurry, when we’re about to leave each other, or when we meet briefly and unexpectedly, a kiss on the cheek is the perfect way to say “I love you.”

And for those of you who are afraid of seeming to be too clingy in public, a simple kiss on the cheek is a tasteful, unsappy way to express your love in front of others. If you can get comfortable enough to add holding hands with your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend in public, you’ll be on your way to a much more romantic, fulfilling relationship!

The next time you feel the urge to give your significant other a kiss, don’t let anything stop you. If you do, you might be missing out on a chance to add a whole lot more old-fashioned romance to your relationship!

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Dating! After breakup

By the time we reach 30s and 40s, many of us break up. After waiting for some months, we think of entering the dating scene again. What kind of approach should we take? What needs to be thought about and how should one enter dating scene again? Often we have been in a marriage or other long-term relationship
for so long that the very way people date has changed.

It is not easy to find single people of our age as easily as we did when we were younger. The way out is try to explore all venues to meet suitable dates. The first step should be to meet someone who is of our age and is already dating. We can get useful tips from them about changes that have occurred.

Some of us will have opportunity to meet single people through our jobs or at church. Others will need to find new ways of meeting people. Participating in sports, hobbies, and volunteer work can help you to find people who share the same interests. Changing your activities every month or so will help you to keep meeting new people. To meet new people it is important to join new groups. Developing new hobbies and taking interest in wider area of activities helps meet new people.

Internet dating is another option. Look for a good website that has profiles of people meeting your requirements and begin contacting. Take the usual care on the Internet. There are some websites who cater to the older group. You can try those too. Good luck.

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Some notes about fatherhood

For most of us, our first father is God. A large majority of the world considers God as their father; or rather call God as their father. God is father to all in such believing families. What about biological fathers? How does one become a good father? What are the yardsticks by which we measure the goodness of a father?

This is a subject for discussion and application of thought. Who is the final judge about the goodness of the father? The mother? The children? The society? What qualities should a man possess to be called a good father? These questions generate a bigger debate.

Can a mother judge her husband about his goodness as a father? That judgment can depend on so many probabilities. What are her yardsticks? How was her father? What are her beliefs? Do these beliefs match those of her husband? How much does she love her husband and her children? If it comes to taking sides, whose side will she take? Will it be a well thought-out decision or one colored by many other factors?

Can the father judge his own goodness? What may be correct according to him, may be wrong according to her children? The man carries his psychological baggage and many times may be prejudging and expecting responses. Generation gap plays a bigger role. As the world progresses, priorities, tastes, values, everything undergoes change. Therefore a man himself cannot pronounce himself as a good father. Children will contest that, if he does not accept their beliefs. Which child will call his father a good father, if the father has set ideas about partying, relationships, studies, etc.

Can the children judge their father? That is difficult to believe. The children surely wish for a father who not only agrees with their ideas, but supports them in all possible ways in enjoying life. What if a child is such that he believes that enjoying life is more important than studying for examinations?

If we think more about this subject, it will result into more confusion. What is to be thought about fatherhood and how does one become a good father? The best way out might be to accept the generation gap, listen to children before giving orders, have a fair debate on all important issues, and tell children exactly about values that will decide the final action. After doing all this, one should simply do one’s duty and leave the rest to prayers. And before attempting to become a good father, one should first become a good man. A drug addict can never become a good father, nor a habitual liar.

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10 Best ways to hold hands of your sweet heart

If you’re one of the many people out there who think that holding hands is a simple, boring routine that adds nothing to a marriage or romantic relationship, think again! It’s time to stop worrying about public display of affection . . . and start learning how to hold hands!

Hand holding, if done correctly, can add a new dimension of intimacy and excitement to your romance . . . but only if you let it! There are tons of romantic ideas to transform regular hand holding into a passionate, playful experience that can add a much-needed spark to your relationship from the very first caress.

That’s right: there’s more than one way to hold hands with your wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend . . . and lovers can find a unique method specially suited to add romance to any situation. Use the list below to come up with your own romantic ideas for holding hands with your sweetheart, but don’t stop there! Combine techniques, experiment and come up with your own hand holding ideas specially suited to your unique romantic relationship.



Top Ten Hand Holding Techniques

1. The Passive Hand Hold

This is hand holding in its simplest form: your sweetheart’s hand gently but firmly cupped in yours. It’s most appropriate for public environments where you want to remain tasteful and avoid looking “clingy,” but is still a great, effective way to add physicality to your romantic relationship.

2. The Intertwined Fingers Hand Hold

A step up from the Passive Hand Hold, Intertwined Fingers provides a firmer grip and an increased sense of intimacy. This type of hand holding is perfect while taking a romantic walk together, but it can have a downside of sweaty palms!

3. The One-Finger Hand Hold

Holding just one of your lover’s fingers is a more romantically playful method for times when you’re feeling flirtatious. This is the easiest hand hold for your sweetheart to pull away from, but is still a great way to add some fun intimacy to the mix.

4. The Massaging Hand Hold

Turning a simple hand-holding session into a relaxing massage is a wonderful romantic surprise to give your sweetheart. There’s an art to romantic massage and an unlimited number of ways you can caress your lover’s hands and give attention to each finger. This hand-holding method is best used while sitting down!

5. The Two-Hand Hold

Here’s another technique that is tough to do while standing, but one of the best ways to add some serious physicality and intimacy to hand holding. Taking your sweetheart’s hand in both of yours will give them a deep sense of security, importance and calm.

6. The Palm Caress Hand Hold

This method is an intimate, secret way to tastefully caress your lover without being noticed by others around you. Starting with the Passive or Intertwined Fingers technique, use one of your fingers to gently rub your sweetheart’s palm in an up-and-down or swirling fashion.

7. The Kissing Hand Hold

The Kissing Hand Hold is perfect for intimate situations when you’re alone with your special someone, and is often combined with the Two-Hand Hold. Clean hands are perfect for kissing, and you should never be afraid to shower your lover’s fingertips, palms and wrists with romantic pecks!

8. The Gentle Pinching Hand Hold

This one isn’t right for every romantic relationship, and can be a little too playful and rough for some couples. But gently pinching your lover’s fingertips and palms, if done correctly, can be an exciting, fun experience for you and your sweetheart, as long as you make sure you don’t do it too hard.

9. The Warm-Up Hand Hold

When it’s cold outside, there’s no better way to warm up your fingers than by having them caressed and rubbed lovingly by your favorite person in the world. Don’t make your sweetheart use a heater when you have two perfectly good, warm hands to help them out! Combine this technique with the Massaging Hand Hold for a great effect.

10. The The Morse-Code Hand Hold

This is the most unorthodox and interactive hand-holding technique, but can be a heck of a lot of fun if you and your lover can master it. Agree ahead of time of a phrase that you want to share with each other silently–such as “I love you”–and assign it a number of squeezes that correspond with the syllables in the phrase. Your sweetheart will remember that when you squeeze three times it means “I-love-you” . . . and can respond with a four-squeeze “I-love-you-too”!

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Sense of humor plays an important role in relation

So, when life hands you problems, are you able to take them in stride and laugh off the inevitable, unavoidable hassles and annoyances that come your way? You see, some of the tricks to being successful in life are useful in encouraging romance in your marriage or relationship, too . . . and one of those important romantic ideas is having a sense of humor!

Learn to see the lighter side of things

In many instances,taking your relationship too seriously is more dangerous to your romance than not taking your relationship seriously enough. Developing a sense of humor about events that you can’t change is a great way to make your relationship more resilient, fend off a breakup or divorce, and make your husband, wife, girlfriend or boyfriend more comfortable with you.

So, does that mean you should laugh off every serious problem that life hands you? Of course not! But having a sense of humor does mean that you allow yourself to see the lighter side of situations that you can’t change . . . and let yourself laugh off your challenges every now and then!

Don’t let minor annoyances gain control of your life!

Illnesses and threats to your relationship or marriage are hardly humorous, and laughing in the face of serious problems such as these would be silly and probably make your sweetheart feel pretty rotten. But taking smaller problems and annoyances too seriously is giving outside influences more control over your happiness than they deserve. By developing a thicker skin and laughing at minor challenges, you rob them of their power to control your life . . . and you make your romance even stronger!

So the next time you feel like getting upset over something that really has no consequence, try laughing at the annoyance instead. You’ll be surprised at how much it improves your life, your romance . . . and you!

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Some special thoughts about love

“A guy and a girl can be just friends….But at one point or another one of them will fall for other maybe temporarily ,may be at the wrong time ,may be too late or may be….just may be forever….”

“Love is gift you can’t buy it ,you can’t find it ,someone has to give it to you,Learn to be receptive of that gift”

“Love grows by giving,the love we give away is the only love we keep,the only way to retain love is to give it away….”

“Sometimes you have to juts take chance in love and life ,you can’t live your life among the mounds of ‘what if”,you have to follow your heart and hope for the best….”

“Love is special feeling that brightens our days ,and the secret of its meaning is found in simple ways”

“Remember that you don’t choose love ,love chooses you ,all you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life”

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You My Love

You ask me what keeps me going,

In the face of everything,

What makes me smile

In the face of pain,

What way does sweetness enter me

And gush over in my words,

My answer is simple

To all these questions of yours -

“You”

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Love Wallpapers Collection Part-2

I have collected some more more good wallpapers, Hope you all will like it.

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How to save sexless marriage

If you’re wondering how to cope with a sexless marriage you may be looking in the wrong place. If you are living in a sexless marriage you shouldn’t be trying to cope with it, you should be looking for ways to cure it. Nearly one in five couple are living in a sexless relationship, this means that when you go to the store, bar or restaurant that if there are ten couples in any place the likelihood is that two of those couples have this problem.

Society puts a lot of pressure on couples; they not only need to work harder to afford the nicer things in life but they also need to earn more money due to inflation, increasing house prices, the credit crunch and the cost of raising children so it’s not surprising that we can’t function normally all of the time.

If you’ve tried to analyze this situation, chances are that you’ve got around to playing the blame game. Many people try to work out the problem without the right information, they feel that because it’s them that want sex and their partner who doesn’t then it must be the partners fault. Putting the blame on your spouse can be the end of your marriage, what if the real reason is down to you but the symptoms have come out in your partner?

Instead of wondering how to cope with a sexless marriage you should put your efforts into fixing it, coping with it means that you have given up.

In this day and age men and women both work to support a household, sometimes the woman can earn more than her husband which makes him feel inferior. Some women stay at home to look after the kids and end up feeling unappreciated which can cause them to feel depressed, these are just two potential causes for sexless marriages, there are hundreds more.

I am not going to list hundreds of causes of a sexless marriage because each marriage is different, each couple is different and unless you know exactly what caused this problem for you! It will take you a very long time to fix the marriage.

Don’t give up too easily; so many people with this problem seem to think that the easiest way to deal with this is just to get a divorce, what happens after that? If you love your spouse then you need to stay together and work through this problem.

By reading this far you’ve taken the first steps to fixing your sexless marriage, as I said earlier it’s not about how to cope with a sexless marriage, it’s about working together to repair the damage and strengthen your relationship.

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How to win your love back

Do you want to win your love back? Are you sad that your partner has broken up and do you want their love again? My advice is that unless you are very sad do not try that. If you think that life is becoming difficult without your partner then let us see what you can do.

Reflect upon the period preceding the breakup. Did you change towards your partner? Were you less attentive or less loving? Were you taking your love for granted? Think about all the mistakes you may have committed. If you find that you were not the reason, then better give up the idea. You can only do something about lost love, if you caused it. If you find that you were probably the reason then arrange a meeting and apologize for all your mistakes. Promise never to do same thing again. You may probably win your love back.

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Do you think that you understand your partner? Think again.

Do You Understand your partner? This looks a little different kind of question, isn’t it? Because all of us think that we understand our partner. Is that true for all of us?

What all do we need to know about a person to feel that we understand them? Let us list out. Food habits, clothing choice, hobbies, emotional response, values, ambitions, behavior, mental strength, IQ and others. How much do you know about behavior response of your partner? Let us not talk about everyday behavior but how do they behave during extraordinary circumstances. For example, if a burger enters the house at night, what will be your partner’s reaction? They will feel frightened? They will go and confront the burglar? They will try to catch the burglar or they will try to kill?

We can raise many such questions and try and think if we know the answer. Suppose your partner is dressed in their best clothes and is attending a party. Somebody spills a liquid on his or her clothes by mistake. How do you think they will react? Can you answer this? Think of different situations and answer them to know if you really understand your partner.

Knowing about likes and dislikes does not mean understanding. To understand means to know the values, the life goals and the priorities of a person. To understand means to know what incidences made what impacts on that person. To understand means - you will be able to predict the reaction of your partner at a crucial moment. Can you do that with surety?

In the beginning of our relationship , we all talk about good things of life. Our focus is more to please our partner. Our focus is to get more pleasure in their company. we never think about the underlying psychological behavior at that time. After the relationship develop little further, we find that many times we get baffled by what our partner does and vice-versa. Better understand leads to stronger relationship.

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Happy wife and life is Heaven

Naturally “how to make your wife happy” will have to do with your own emotional input, and a understanding of hers! Women are very delicate beings at the best of times, and like men, they are very different from on to another. The delicacy to their happiness would be like comparing an old stock standard 4 cylinder engine, to the high tech models of today, to keep them running smooth, requires maintenance and a good amount of learning.

Gone are the days of being able to keep your wife locked up at home to do all of the “wife duties” that we are led to believe they should be doing. You may be able to find 1 out of 100 that could be happy from these expectations, but its a fact that woman that are treated as equals with all responsibility based around your life, and marriages are happier than those that have general expectations, to be the no1 “clean up after me” its your duty. Marriage is about being a team, I am not saying that you are to be the one who does everything, but by not expecting that, and helping out where ever does make for a happier wife…

Woman who are emotionally involved tend to have a high concern on how there partner feels about everything that they are involved in, where us men tend to hold our emotions. A lot of marriages do fail because we don’t learn to communicate effectively, particularly with the negative happenings in our life, wife’s who feel like they are a part of you because you can talk with them about what goes on, good and bad, feel like they are have worth and are needed as part of your team…

Making love to your wife is far grater than than just having sex, you can make love all day long with your words and your actions. Everyone of us has little buttons that make us tick, touching a certain place on the body, my wife has a place on her back that I can touch and she cant wait for me to get home. Always be flirtatious in conversation, good eye contact with that smirky smile of yours that she seems to like, subtle gestures towards the way she makes you feel. It is all about building your friendship, being honest and keeping that spark alive.

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Top 10 best Romantic gifts

Love cannot be translated into materialistic pleasures,but for some,expensive and lavish gifts arethe best way to express their romantic feelings.

1.Vintage Timepeice:

A vintage timepeice will remind the love of your life how much they enjoy spending time with you.

2.A Romantic Film just for two:

Nothing sets the mood for love more than a good whole some romantic film .Snuggling ,cooing and cuddling together will surely bring out the fire within.

3.Words fo love:

If words are all you have then fret not they are enough .A simpe “I LOVE YOU”means the world to your partner and they will find way to make ou feel the same way.

4.Vintage wine and choclates:

Doesnt get more sophisticated than this! little pampering leads to lot of loving.

5.Drive in style:

A chauffer driven car,wind in your hair ,starts in your eyes,your hands in her ,could you ask for more?yes for the ride to last forever.

6.Up,up and away (hot air balloon):

For the sporty and adventurous couples ,a hot air balloon rid does the trick,Up in the clean blue sky with the world down below,the awesome twosome can feel the highest form of love.

7.Fragrant memories:

The sweet scent from her lover will send her to the seventh heaven.she will smell lovely forevermore.

8.Trip in steam engine:

The venice-simplon orient express flamboyance is the name of the game hereAtrip like this is bound to impress her.so much so,she will be yours for life.

9.If music be the food of love:

A luxurious ,romantic dinner will satisfyyour love every desire for taste and leave her begging for more.

10.Weekend break:

Take time out your busy lives,far from the madding crowd,your love will be all yours again and will love you all the more for this lovely gesture.

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Possessiveness can end your relation!

Possess means to own.Can we own our partner? ,Their time… Are they our slaves? If you ask anybody these questions, you will hear a definite no. But some of those who say no may be very possessive about their partner. The Relationship breaks down after sometime hurting both the partners very badly.

Why are some people so possessive? Is that a complex of some kind? Are they afraid that their partner may be snatched away by somebody else? Or do they want their partner to spend all the time with them and no body else? Suppose you come across some emails of your partner. Would you look at them? Would you then ask your partner about the mails? What if your partner is late on a day? Are you happy to see them back or you are angry about their coming late?

If your partner is speaking on phone in a low voice, does that make you feel suspicious? Do you suspect that they may be speaking with their past lover? If someone sends an invitation to your partner for some party, do you insist that they should not go alone? Those who are possessive will try to control every minute of their partner’s life. They never allow the partner to use anything gifted to them by anybody else. They do not want the partner to talk about the past. They rather hate that. They treat themselves as the superior of their partner and try and control every activity. In the end the partner refuses to take this any more and the relationship breaks-up.

To love somebody is a great feeling. But the result of love should be pleasure for both the partners. If one partner feels like an animal in cage, that is not true love.

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Is there any way to have a happy relation?

A relationship is very tricky. Tensions build up over time and one day both the partners cannot bear the stress of the relationship and give it up. After that they keep thinking about why that happened. Why not secure the relationship right from the beginning. Every relationship will have pluses and minuses. Our objective should be to build the pluses. The minuses will then become insignificant. What are the factors that may positively influence a relationship? Let us write them down.

Maintain awareness of feelings of each other.

If you are trying to be perfect, do not do that. That causes stresses. Accept that both of you are imperfect.

Talking about breakup up in heat of the moment is wrong. One should rather avoid talking about breaking up altogether. Avoid discussing about any break up your friends have. Do not focus on any negative. Focus on positives.

Be compassionate towards each other. Take care of the mood swings and do not create tension over small things. Try to ease the atmosphere. Show care towards other person.

Lying about anything should be absolute no. Do not even try to hide things. Be totally open about everything. Never develop any trust deficit.

If something was better for you in the past and is not so in the present, avoid saying so.

Always end the day on a happy note. Do not let any misunderstanding open at the end of the day. Clear up all the mess and apologize if needed.

Know all about your partner’s likes and dislikes. If there is a conflict between what you like and what your partner likes, discuss that openly. Surrender if required. Ego in small matters never helped any one. You will feel better if you give happiness to your partner.

Go by your good instinct. Avoid thinking and dwelling upon negatives. Think of the world as a good place and your relationship as a great one.

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5 tips to improve your marriage with love making

There are marriages today that are in trouble. Living with another can sometimes be hard, and facing the problem is usually the best solution.

Lack of communication is the #1 blind spot for most. What most people do not realize is that love making can improve your marriage and bring couples closer together.

1.)To improve your marriage with love making is knowing what love making really means.This is something that is so natural in a beautiful relationship that a man and a woman share.

This means that trust,dedication to one another, and also being comfortable with each other comes alive while making love.Being able to share things that you normally would not share with any other.

2.) Giving all you can give while love making will make your marriage explode with affection.While love making, make sure your partner is satisfied, do not just think of yourself.

3.) Attraction and being aware of the great qualities that your partner has will stimulate you and bring you closer.Those qualities that brought you together in the first place will never leave your minds.

4.) Lovemaking is also showing your partner how much you care, in unlimited ways. A gentle massage or neck rub is not out of the question when love making.To improve your marriage, kind words also go far in love making. Being kind has never made enemies.

5.) Sexual energy is one of the most powerful feeling in life, so use it to its full extent. Do not let your sexual energy get your partner bored, try new things to arouse your partner. Nothing is worse than going to bed with your spouse and hating every moment.

How often have you wondered if you could save your marriage or relationship and finally be happy. Do you think that your love making needs to improve.

If your relationship problems are focused on physical or emotional abuse, then this is the type of troubled marriage that should be ended.

But, if your marriage problems are bad, yet abuse is not present, then 100%, your marriage can be saved - and made better!

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Sometimes it happens with all of us

Are you struggling with obsessive thoughts, depression, pain, and lack of intimacy with your spouse? Maybe you’re thinking, “Gosh, it’s been over a year, or two or three, and I’m still not totally healed. What’s wrong with me?” This happened to me and I couldn’t figure out why my marriage wasn’t what I wanted it to be and I still wasn’t truly happy inside. I felt like we were roommates that really didn’t like each other very much. I wanted us to have this wonderful intimate relationship but how come it wasn’t happening?

I have since learned that if I don’t change the way I think I may never heal and have that loving relationship with my husband. Because of this I have learned that the passing of time does very little to help in recovering. I always heard that time heals all wounds, well that is false. Yes, it helps but if you truly want to heal and have that happy healthy relationship you have always wanted then time alone will not make this happen. In fact, it can make it worse if all your doing is obsessively thinking about all the pain your in and why your in it. You need to really work on what is going through your mind. Are they mostly negative thoughts about yourself, your marriage, and your spouse? Your going to have to put in the effort and try to understand and gain perspective on the situation rather than just going over and over all the negativity around the situation.

Of course, this is easier said than done, but how badly do you want to heal and be happy again? Are you willing to do the hard work it takes to get to where you want to be? Now I know that in the first year after finding out doing this was pretty much impossible for me to master. In fact, it took me over 2 years to finally understand and gain the perspective I needed too in order to starting making myself think positively again. Remember, they do say that is takes 2-5 years to heal from the effects of infidelity. You can’t rush it and expect to be healed and happy by the end of the first year. These things take time and effort and MANY baby steps.

The painful thoughts are going to come, you can’t stop them and they’ll sometimes seem to come out of nowhere. But what you do after they come is what’s going to make all the difference. I have found that if you let yourself dwell on these thoughts the pain will either stay the same but most often than not they get worse. I find myself starting to have bitter thoughts towards my spouse. This makes me start withdrawing from or behaving badly towards him which in no way helps the healing and recovery process. So, you have to really try and stop yourself from dwelling on these thoughts. It doesn’t mean you can’t have them or acknowledge that they are there, but really force yourself to turn your thoughts back to something positive. In time, after much practice this will become habit and what a wonderful habit this will be to have. You’ll find yourself a much happier person one that anyone would love to be around. I promise you, this will do wonders for your marriage.

So feeding these painful thoughts will make them grow into huge ugly weeds and weeds can kill, so these thoughts left untamed can kill a marriage. But if you refuse to feed and nurture these painful thoughts then the weeds won’t be able to grow and instead it will let your marriage grow into something beautiful.

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Boundaries in Love

A boundary is different from an agreement. You don’t need the other person to agree to your boundaries. They don’t even have to know what your boundaries are, unless they are crossed. Your boundary is something, that you know, if that line is crossed, you will address the matter immediately so that it is remedied, and if it is not resolved to your satisfaction, you will act by removing yourself from the situation so that you are not subjected to it again.

An example:

Say there is a woman named Marjorie, who has often been lied to in past relationships. They were big lies. It gives her great pain, remembering this. She knows that lies are not something she can tolerate in relationships. She hates the feeling of distrust, and the betrayal that lies cause in the relationship.

She enters a new relationship. They are in love. One day though, he says a small lie because he’s afraid that if he tells the truth it will hurt her. This is common — the well-intentioned lie. But she finds out and she is very hurt and upset, and she doubts now that she can trust other things he says, and she doesn’t like that feeling. This is not what she wants in a relationship. She wants absolute mutual trust.

But fortunately, she decided ahead of time what she would do if someone lied to her again. She decided that if she was told any big lie, such as her partner was covering up an affair, or drinking and hiding it, or being dishonest with money… that she would end the relationship immediately, with no negotiation. That is her signal to leave now, before it gets worse.

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101 Love Ideas

1. Remember to say “I love you” and “I need you” often.

2. Walk hand in hand in the rain.

3. Write a love poem.

4. Call a radio station and dedicate a favorite song.

5. Write “I Love You” in lipstick or shaving cream on the mirror.

6. Hide love notes in a lunch box, briefcase or purse.

7. Make heart-shaped cinnamon toast for breakfast.

8. Place a love note in the personals section of the newspaper.

9. Take a carriage ride around the city.

10. Plan a surprise getaway.

11. Do your mate’s household chores.

12. Write notes on future dates in their date book (”I love you,” I miss you,” etc.)

13. Make reservations at a favorite restaurant.

14. Let them choose the movie.

15. Give a foot massage.

16. Make a heart-shaped bookmark, and place it in their book.

17. Pop in a romantic music CD and slow dance.

18. Throw a just-because surprise party for two.

19. Buy a stuffed animal for your honey.

20. Read each other’s horoscopes.

21. Make a list of the top 10 things you love about your partner.

22. Display it in a prominent place.

23. Tattoo your mate’s name on your body.

24. Make an album or scrapbook of your favorite memories together.

25. Go camping together and only take one sleeping bag.

26. Send a mushy message in a bottle…a balloon…a sandwich…

27. Cut out a silly cartoon that you know they’d enjoy.

28. Shower together.

29. Dim the lights, and snuggle together on the couch.

30. Be the first to say “I’m sorry” and kiss and make up.

31. Give each other a full-body massage.

32. Kiss every hour on the hour all day long.

33. Send a gift basket of indulgent items.

34. Write “I’m hot for you” in the steam on the bathroom mirror.

35. Ribbon wrap your bed with a big bow.

36. Fill up the gas tank of your partner’s car.

37. Act like teenagers. Maybe even pierce something!

38. Show up with a bouquet of flowers — for no reason at all.

39. Play Scrabble® together, using as many “love” words as you can.

40. Run a warm bubble bath for your partner, with lots of lit candles.

41. Meet in the park for a picnic.

42. Hold hands.

43. Leave a trail of rose petals through the house, leading to a romantic candlelight dinner.

44. Make a donation in your mate’s name to a special cause or charity.

45. Pick up their clothes from the floor — without saying a word about it.

46. Watch an old black and white romantic movie and share a bowl of popcorn.

47. Reenact your first date.

48. Surprise your partner with tickets to a special event.

49. An unexpected hug can brighten any day.

50. Buy a silly, impromptu gift.

51. Send an email just to say “I’m thinking of you.”

52. Bring home a balloon bouquet.

53. Serve breakfast in bed.

54. Make an ornament with a picture of both of you for the Christmas tree.

55. Play tag.

56. Wash and wax your partner’s car, and leave a little note on the dashboard.

57. Plant a garden together.

58. Leave a mushy message on voicemail.

59. Stay at a hotel for the night, just because.

60. Make angels in the snow.

61. Every time you say “hello” or “goodbye”, seal it with a hug and a kiss.

62. Take a drive in the country.

63. Spend the evening looking at the stars — and make a wish together.

64. Cast a playful wink any time, anywhere.

65. Think up a list of silly little pet names for times when you’re alone together.

66. Read poetry to each other.

67. Celebrate your half-birthdays together.

68. Put a picture of both of you in your wallet.

69. Buy that favorite book or CD for no reason at all.

70. Send a care package to work filled with treats like food, photos, candy, a love note, heart-shaped confetti, etc.

71. Go out for the evening and tell people you’re on your honeymoon.

72. Take a hike together and carve your initials in a tree.

73. Write a thank you note for all the things you take for granted.

74. Make a fire in the fireplace and roast marshmallows.

75. Tape your favorite TV show and spend the evening talking.

76. Do the dishes together, then apply hand lotion to each other’s hands.

77. Write a love letter to your partner and cut it into jigsaw puzzle pieces.

78. Decide on secret signals and use them to communicate with each other in large groups of people.

79. Schedule a regular mid-week “date night” for just the two of you.

80. Do the laundry together.

81. Romance Theater Weekend: reenact each other’s favorite love scene - hers on Friday, his on Saturday.

82. Call your partner at work and ask for a date.

83. Pretend you haven’t seen each other for a month. Act accordingly.

84. Send a written invitation to do something special.

85. Take turns reading to each other.

86. Stand outside the window and sing a romantic song.

87. Hide favorite candy in your partner’s coat pockets.

88. Put a tape recording of your voice (saying anything) in the car stereo and turn it on so it plays when the car starts.

89. Go to a drive-in movie.

90. Get up to turn off the last light after you’re both comfy-cozy in bed.

91. Hold each other tight during a thunderstorm.

92. Make a tape recording of favorite love songs.

93. Leave a bunch of bananas on the kitchen table with a note, “I go bananas over you!”

94. Hide love notes in a magazine.

95. Declare your undying love via a telegram.

96. Make a romantic dinner together, and serve it on your finest china.

97. Surprise your partner with a big kiss on the neck.

98. Give unexpected compliments.

99. Share an ice cream cone.

100. Have a picnic on the living room floor.

101. Draw a silly picture of the two of you. Frame it.

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Looks! Does it really matters?

What is love? What is attraction? Why do we love someone? Why do we say that we love someone? Why do not we say that we like someone or are getting attracted to someone? This is all because love is becoming a common word to be used for all kinds of attachments and relationships. Have you quizzed yourself about how much looks matter to you in love?

Will you love an ugly looking person even if she/he has every other quality in plenty? Or you will accept somebody better looking but missing in some qualities? What if you are told that the best looking person of the opposite sex has fallen for you and wants love in return? When you develop relationship, you find that person missing in many essential qualities and values that you respect. What will you do?

Many of the relationships break because we are attracted by looks but as we get closer we find the other person difficult and break the relationship. It happens with most of us. We all go for looks in the beginning. Very rarely, we give points for other qualities in a logical manner. We look at a attractive person and say-I am in love. Quiz yourself and you will realize why many of your relationships broke? We may deny that. But the main attraction is always great looks. Quiz yourself about this and probably you will come to know more about what are your priorities in relationships and love.

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Jealousy or Insecurity or Intense Love ?

What is jealousy? I love you . You love me. We are partners in love. We have decided to be for each other and be with each other forever. One fine day, you decide on your own that you would like to go with someone else. You give many reasons, but I feel jealous. That is jealousy. Intense jealousy can result in murders also. Why does one feel jealous? One feels jealous because one loves, and one cares. No one feels jealous about conduct of unknown people. We feel jealous only when our own beloved cheats on us. First stop loving, stop giving any commitment and then you will never face and jealous feelings.

Jealousy is the result of breach of trust. A person who is in intense love will feel intense jealousy and will find it difficult to adjust with his/her life after the breach of trust. We are all human beings and not saints. Saints neither love a person exclusively nor commit themselves to one person. Their love is universal. But ours is not. we love only one. When that person cheats on us, we feel jealous and if we are sure of the cheating and if our partner goes away, we feel angry for betrayal of trust.

We feel that there is no way out from the pain of jealousy, or betrayal or the anger that results from breach of trust. The more you have invested in your relationship, the bigger hurt you will experience.

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Some Points to be remebered while get into Relationship

To make a relation is very tough. It is not easy to get a partner you like and who likes you. Lot many factors are involved in a relationship. It is therefore important that a relationship is saved at every cost. Not only should the relationship saved but also it should flourish. It should give pleasure to both the partners and give them a happy life.

Love
Love is the first need. We are not talking of infatuation but mature love. Love and care for each other nourishes life. Only when you love and care for your partner you will make efforts to go to extra mile to make the relationship work. Similarly if your partner shows no love for you, you will feel that the relationship gives you nothing.

Boundaries
A good relationship means that both the partners know about the boundaries of it. You may not want your partner to bother you about your work. Your partner should know when you feel bad. Similarly you should know about the boundaries you are not supposed to cross.

Habits And Values
Partners in a healthy relationship have many common habits and values. Life goals, values, beliefs and, emotional drivers are common in a healthy relationship. If you are going to argue about every decision, because your goals and values are different, the relationship will suffer. Similarly, if what drives your emotions leaves your partner unaffected, you both will never satisfy each other emotionally. That will again make it an unhealthy relationship. If a sight of a beautiful waterfall moves you and your partner tells you that there is nothing great about that and that you should move on, you would surely hate yourself or your partner.

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Hatred and love.Are they related with each other?

What is love? Love is an emotion. There are so many emotions- hatred, anger, happiness, etc. Love is also an emotion. The difference is one- love is the most powerful emotion. Hatred is also a very powerful emotion. True hatred can make a person do unthinkable. Similarly love can make a person do unthinkable, but in a positive side.

Many of us complain about our partners. He/she is this and that. We have a long list of complaints and as days go by, our list increases finally leading to a break-up. Can we do something different than complaining? Sure. We can express our love and faith in our partner. We can praise him/her for their good qualities and make them feel our love. It will have two effects- our own focus shifts from bad to good, and our partner also would want to reciprocate our love. This will make them stop doing what hurts us. It is easy to destroy a relationship. Why not build?

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