“Breakup” and “Guilt” If it is so then you have lost

How many break-ups also result in feelings of guilt amongst partners? Please take care of guilt before you break-up. Guilt can be a very damaging feeling and can make any life hell. Those who are full of guilt undergo lot of pain asking for forgiveness everywhere, but fail to forgive themselves.

Why guilt? Guilt comes if you have done any wrong that has not been corrected. If you have done wrongs with your partner and refuse to acknowledge them before break-up that will be very painful afterwards. Let me tell you something. Most of us never believe that we have done any wrong. As time passes we realize our wrongs and by that time all is lost. The feelings of guilt therefore take over after that and make life impossible.

If you have decided to break-up, please go ahead. Please do what I suggest before you break up. Please ask your partner about what all he/she feels what done wrongly by you. Ask them to tell you about everything, not missing even the smallest detail. Without any arguments, please say sorry for all that. Do not argue.Say sorry, and apologize and after that try to forget everything. Forgive yourself and continue with your life. This way you will be saving yourself from tremendous amount of guilt that may come afterwards. Act in time before breaking up.

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Be a giver in relation but also let your partner feel it.

Sometimes we love our partner so much and give them so much in love ,just to make her/him happy try to do all possible and sometimes impossible to make her/him feel cared.why we all do all these things for our beloved only to make her/him feel best as he/she has the best partner in this world.But while doing all the things and becoming like your partner wanted to see,sometimes you do that you never wanted to do from heart.

But why we all do these mistakes don’t come to conclusion first by saying that people give their lives in love and i am saying something that is not acceptable as a lover.Let us find out why i am saying all this has a really very genuine reason behind it and if neglected you can lost your love also.

remember your first sight of love or the moment when you fall in love with your beloved and slowly move forward till today you will see so many changes in you only because of your partner,and for him/her you have changed yourself,what you were liking before all are lost.

It is really divine if you can see from the eyes of your partner what he/she likes but it is really difficult in real world.In love give ratio must be equal,if this ratio is either less or more or not balanced couples started fighting ,argue, and in the worst case they gets separated also.We are humans and when we do something we like to get appreciated for it if not getting anything in return.Lets take an example of office where your are working day and night very hard and far better than your colleagues but let us suppose two cases:

when your boss don’t know anything about your hard work and you are thinking that he will be knowing about your extraordinary hard work.and after sometimes when you approached him for a leave he said cant give you leave your performance is very bad and like that….at this moment what will you do…while you were doing hard work somewhere you must be thinking of getting perks or promotion and when you approached the scene was totally different.same in the case of love relationship you are doing everything for your partner what so ever you can and to do all this you are really staking your self respect,esteem but your partner don’t know or taking it as your duties and nothing more.And when circumstances comes where you believed that your partner will left her/him all comfort and will support you only and will not see anyone else before you you might get hurt badly.

Causes:because you never expressed your feelings till your partner accepts it and understands it.Even after doing all above normal things you are failed to get your partner realize the same.Al these kinds of scenario in life must be avoided as they can really make your relation hell.

try to maintain a ratio of giving between the two and also make each other feel and praise for anything you do for each other.

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Love is a mystery

Love has many facets. Love is still a mystery and every lover has his/her own story about love. What is mature love and what type is immature/ Let us find out.

In immature love it is said that the person who falls in love has low self-respect. He/she has little self-confidence and finds a lover to see all the qualities that he/she misses in themselves. The person does not love himself/herself, but loves the partner . This is called immature love.

Mature love - If a person has very high self-respect and great self-confidence, he/she is supposed to be in mature love. This is called mature love because it is expected that such persons know what they are doing? They know why they love a particular person and what they expect from the love.

In my opinion both these kids of love may fail equally badly or survive against all the odds, because while talking of love, we have to consider the partner also. My success or failure does not depend only on me, but also my partner.

Why two persons fall in attraction and become inseparable is a mystery. Very contrasting personalities may love each other for all the life and very similar partner may fall out of love in a short time. It is the very nature of love that makes it a subject of so much investigation.

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Are you an insecure girlfriend?

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Be careful! Don’t let your friendship to move towards emotional affair.

You might wonder about the difference between friendship and emotional affair. Does an emotional affair help a Relationship by letting a partner letting out all emotional frustration and misunderstandings , which otherwise they would have done with his/her partner? Does it kill the relationship? How to know if a friendship is proceeding towards and emotional affair?

There is a short story of my best friend manoj and his wife shanti.A lovely couple. They were in love from schooldays and after few years they felt that it was time to cement the relationship by living together and having children. The first few months of their life together was smooth but as time passed the strain of living together started showing up? They were trying to sort out the issues, but during that time shanti happened to meet her school friend sagar.

sagar was a good Friend of shanti in the schooldays and shanti used to take his advice for all her problems. When shanti met sagar she thought that she should talk to sagar about her relationship with manoj. She should have not done that at all. She was already trying to sort out her issues talking with manoj and she should have continued talking to manoj only. But after talking to manoj it looked as if manoj was the opposition to shanti.

Rather than understanding each other positively now after having one person in favour they are now more aggressively fighting on the misunderstandings to prove each other wrong. This began changing equations of the relationship. Shanti’s relationship with sagar slowly changed to emotional relationship and ultimately she broke away with Manoj. A relationship was destroyed because shanti crossed a boundary. She discussed something very personal with sagar. In any relationship, the issues of relationship should never be discussed with anybody else unless the break up looks imminent. Shanti was a friend of sagar. sagar should have never been allowed to enter the issues of her relationship with manoj. If you are making any such blunder, please avoid and save your relationship.

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Right Time to Express Your Love for someone is when you feel it

Most of us are confused and wait for the right time to approach to say “i love u”,because we don’t want to loose that person.But is it not a babble act when that person don’t know your feelings for him/her?

Here is a short story of my friend who was very intelligent,studious and also shy ,In the schooldays he fall in love from the day he saw her,she became his everything, it was the case when he is thinking of her every sec ,but he scared to express his feelings in front of her.He has discussed his feeling for her with his friends as he was seeking advice how to proceed further,how to say I love you to her ,how to express his feelings for her and from here climax has changed as one of his friend was also liked her.

After few months his friend has approached her and said “i love u “ no its not like that his friend has betrayed him ,his friend has done this as the part of bet between friends that who will propose first. As his friend was not serious about her so their relation was not last longer and after few months his friend left her.

By not expressing your true love for some one you love ,you are really spoiling the life of that person.

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Can you explain what is love ?

If I will ask you what is love? This looks a very simple question. Is it that simple? We all talk so much about love, read so much about love and use the word love so carelessly.Is it Relationship? Is it an emotion? What is it?

Let us explore. A look at the face, and you can find if someone is in love? The eyes look dreamy, the smile comes on many times Or you will observe the excitement of meeting the beloved. To meet, share and walk hand in hand. Why? Love. But what is love?

Ask someone to explain, and you will get an answer such as he/she is dearest to my heart.I can’t live without her,She is my life ,we cannot imagine even a single sec without each other.I can’t see my beloved in any pain. You will hear all these answers. But nothing specific about what precisely is love.

Let me try answering this query. Love is an emotion that binds one person to another in a relationship that cannot be described. Lovers are worried only about making their beloved happy. Those in deep love cannot stay away even for a small time. They are ready to forget and sacrifice most of their other relationships for the sake of their love. They are ready to die for each other, and history tells us that sometimes it really happens. Love is an emotional relationship that can never be described, but can only be experienced. Try explaining the taste of sugar, to someone who has never tasted anything sweet. You will never be able to do it. For that the other person has to eat sugar. Similarly, love can never be explained. One has to fall in love to know of its bliss.

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Dont be confused in love ortherwise you will loose

We have seen many people talking about love and many of them say i can’t live without him/her,i can’t imagine even a single sec without him/her ,he/she is my everything ,but when they are asked “will you marry your love “,Most of the people will say i didnt thought of that yet,Many of them will talk about compatibility issues ,many of them will say first let us know each other ,all these answers you will hear from lovers after fall in love with someone.

What is the problem actually are they confused ? Or they are still waiting for someone who will be more understanding or …

As a human ,our want for new and better things never stops this human nature is good for materialistic things but not love.
Let us examine why ?Here is short story of student and teacher ,Student asked the teacher how to find the best partner who will be beautiful,understanding ,loving and caring to me .After Listening to student teacher smile and said student Lets go to a Rose garden then they both went to rose garden ,when they reached there teacher said student to find the best Rose in the garden ,But there are some conditions:

1)Once you have move farward in a row you can’t come back

2)You can only select one rose “the best rose that you feel is”

3)rose that you have left can’t be seleted anymore.

Student started finding the best rose keeping in mind all the condition of the teacher at the very first he found the beautiful rose but is size was small,so he didnt seleted that and move farward in the row and then again he found rose must better than earlier one but it was not smelling good ,so he didnt seleted that and moved farward in row..

At last,when he reached the last he found no rose on that branch ,moral of the story is what comes to you first is best try to accept it or you will not get anything..

If you will understand this then you will be the happiest person on this world and you will be staisfied in love and it will fill your life with joy and happiness.

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Are you a giver?

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Long distance relationship can also easily last longer

Marriage should be for keeps. It still is possible to have a long lasting relationship even at this time when so many marriages have failed. And even where long distance relationships are concerned, there is still a possibility to make it last.

Nothing is impossible to accomplish in this world especially when it comes to marriage if couples have a deep love and trust for each other as well as in the Divine power. Many married couples today are involved in long distance relationships and while some don't last long, others have worked it out. Long distance ties are inevitable notably among couples where one spouse needs to find a greener pasture abroad to support his or her family or one is assigned in another place or country due to the nature his work.

Maintaining a long distance relationship is definitely hard what with the absence of the other and the challenges in communication. This can really be difficult when a couple has already children. But it can be done if only the husband and wife make extra efforts to nurture the relationship while they're apart. Determination to make the relationship work despite the distance, constant communication and mutual trust should always be present.

* The willingness to keep a long distance relationship last is one of the keys to make your marriage succeed despite all the trials that may come along. Sometimes, it's easy to forget about your other half when a spouse is too engrossed with his work and his newfound friends in the place he or she works. Temptations are also everywhere. However, this should not be a problem if both spouses find ways to make each other feel loved and appreciated across the miles.
* An open communication line is definitely helpful. Try to communicate as often as you can and find out how he or she is doing with work and family. Today, there are various communication media available from the telephone, mobile phone and email. If you have the time, you can always write a letter to your loved one which is still a sweet thing to do.
* Honesty is crucial. This means being able to discuss things that matter to your relationship including sensitive issues and revealing your whereabouts and happenings in the most truthful way. Sometimes, people are tempted to lie about what they do and where they went confident that they are away from their partner. Being honest also means being free to talk about your sexual needs as this can measure your partner's commitment to you physically and personally.
* Stretching your patience is of utmost importance. Waiting for the homecoming of your spouse can be a real ordeal. But the best way to fight this stressful feeling is to keep yourself busy. Work if you must especially for the wives to feed your mind and allow you to earn your own income. With the internet, it's now possible to work at home and still supervise your children instead of getting bored all the time because you're missing your partner.
* Encouragement is also a key factor. Encouraging and praise each other in the best way possible helps improve the relationship. Find out how his work is going and how he's coping with it and share your happenings as well especially your children's activities. Don't hesitate to ask for assistance from him as well when needed.

If you keep these things in mind, you can be sure to keep your long distance relationship forever. You can work it out. Just believe in yourself.

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Rock your life look romantic!

Go through your list of celebrities quickly in your mind. Tell me who out of them looks most romantic to you? Who do you think will take your breath away if you are asked to meet them? The looks, the walk, the talk, the body language, and the charisma these make a person romantic. Who do you think will score in all these departments and leave you mesmerized?

You must have seen many movies. You must have seen many movies with special effects. What are these effects for and why are they called special? The special effects are used to create an atmosphere that may look great. You have to do the same to look romantic. Create special effects around you so that the overall effect is smashing.

I pointed out some qualities earlier - the looks, the walk, the talk, the body language, and the charisma. Assess yourself for all of these. Consult experts if required. For charisma, watch some video shots of charismatic people. Observe carefully. Watch the way these people speak, make hand movements, and change eye and facial expressions. This study will be of help to you in changing yourself totally. Practice in front of the mirror. Add special effects to your personality. Let it look artificial to begin with. Slowly they will all look and become genuine.

It is not easy to look romantic, but given proper changes, you can change to one of the most romantic persons walking on the earth. Do you not believe me? Try what I said about special effects and watch the results

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Save your Marriage

Most marriage advice sites miss the point. They focus primarily on sex. But sex is not what makes a relationship work. Here's best of breed marriage advice that works.

I won't bore you with unnecessary details.

If you are a married person, you know that what keeps a marriage together, what will save a marriage from collapse, is not how good your husband is in bed.

Here's a small chunk of statistics to help you.

When you are newly married, you probably make love, say, three or four times a day if
you and your husband are super active. That is perfectly understandable.

You've spent months waiting for your wedding day. You've been through several hurdles. Now your dreams have finally been realized. The excitement makes repeated love making come naturally.

Then too most working class people take a long vacation to execute their wedding and take a honeymoon. With the routine of work and stress out of the way and your beautiful wife in front of you all day, love making comes knocking regularly.

But after the excitement of the wedding and honeymoon, the real deal begins.

Most people return from a tedious 8-5 or 7-7 job tired and out of sync. Sex is the least thing on their minds.

Days quickly turn into months and months years. Fantasy is over. Day dreams of what your marriage will be are out the window. What you are left with is reality.

Here are things that occupy your mind.

• Family expenses
• Family income
• Children's education
• Children's grades in school
• Your mortgage
• Your spouse's behavior and habits

Suddenly, you discover weeks roll by without any sexual activity between you and your spouse. Then it dawns on you that sex is only a tiny minuscle part of being married. In fact, love making is almost impossible when you have problems weighing down on your mind.

Bottom line.

Marriage advice that works must be based on what the major concerns for couples are in real life. Don't worry about those marriage advice sites that waste an entire web site on the subject of sex. They have no clue as to the width and depth of a marriage relationship.

Now for some sound marriage advice.

• Lasting marriages are built on . . . Love - sharing, caring, understanding
• Trust
• Mutual respect
• Open two-way communication
• Shared values - moral values and Godly values

If you are comtemplating marriage, be sure these ingredients exist before signing below the dotted line.

If you are already married and some or all of these features are missing, you can still save your marriage.

How?

Follow this marriage advice: Be the person you want your husband to be.

You know that moods are contagious. Similarly, attitudes are contagious.

You love your husband. There are certain endearing qualities that draws you to him. But then, there are also unpleasant attitudes or habits he has that tears at your heart.

You can still save your marriage.

Take my advice above. Be the person you want your husband to be.

Show him good example.

Love him, respect him, trust him, talk to him and with him, and let God take control.

Attitude changes take time. So prepare for the long haul.

You shouldn't marry anyone whose values substantially differs from yours. But if you are already married, there's not much you can do but to make the marriage work.

You make the marriage work by playing your role well. In time, your good conduct will have positive effects on your husband. And you may be rewarded with the kind of life you seek.

However, this takes time.

In view of this, self-serving marriage advice experts will have you believe that the best thing to do is to retaliate . . . to return evil for evil.

For example, if your husband has been cheating on you, half baked 'experts' tell you to get back at him by cheating on him too.

Bad advice.

Returning evil for evil doesn't make things better. It makes the situation worse.

Cheating husband and cheating wife . . . two deadly combination.

Good always conquers evil. Check history.

To save your marriage, conquer the evil your husband does with good.

• Be respectful
• Be obedient
• Take your family obligations seriously
• Take your job seriously
• Get him talking. Communicate with him. Reach his heart.
• Be trustworthy
• Keep your family matters confidential unless situation demands you talk to a marriage counseling or a relationship rescue expert
• Pray for divine help. Pray for your husband. Let God's spirit touch his heart.

Marriage advice comes in all shades and colors. Be wary of marriage advice that encourage you to pay evil with evil. It just won't produce good results. It won't save your marriage.

Work to build a happy marriage that honors God. This is the best marriage advice ever.

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Love is battle field

Love is a battlefield. Only lovers who are prepared to give up everything for love find love and keep it.

It's so easy to fall in love. You meet somebody today, within a few hours you're into each other. Within a few days you're madly in love.

But how long will the love relationship last?

Only time can tell.

For most people, however, their love come crashing down when they run into obstacles. The excitement of the love relationship wears so fast you would think it was a game.

No, it wasn't a game. It just couldn't stand the test of trials.

Naturally you're tempted to ask . . . why do many love relationships hit the rocks even before they begin?

The simple reason is this . . . many people falling in love fail to recognize that love is a battlefield.

What does that mean?

It simply means that love is not a bed of roses.

When two people fall in love, it usually happens on a good day . . . a day when they both are at their best. Occasionally, it happens on a bad day . . . a day when either or both of them is facing a challenge or dilemma.

When you fall in love on a good day, the term "love is a battlefield" may not mean much to you.

It's a good day, remember?

You run into this girl one bright afternoon with all the conditions right and you fall in love. On that day she looks like an angel straight from heaven.

You probably wouldn't pause for a moment and ask, "Suppose she's not Miss Right?"

As far as you're concerned, you've found the woman of your dreams and that's all you care about. Life couldn't be better.

Months roll by quickly and you begin to see the real person behind the face. Then you realize this part of her wasn't part of your fantasy and you decide to breakup the relationship.

What happens when you meet her on a bad day?

You still could fall in love with her. In fact, that bad temper of hers may actually impress you especially if it accomplishes something good at that moment.

For example, her anger at someone taking advantage of a less privileged person may establish her with you as someone who stand for justice and fair play.

You may admire her for that. Soon that admiration can grow into love.

But when you begin to spend more time together, her uncontrolled temper may begin to get on your nerves. It may get to a point where you can't take it anymore.

Let's summarize this.

Love is a battlefield because not all your expectations for your love relationship will come true.

• Your parents may not like him because his social status is less than yours
• You may not like the fact that he snores annoyingly
• He may be financially challenged
• He may be physically challenged
• He may not speak your language
• He may not be from your country
• He may not be as polite as you desire
• He may be rude
• He may not share your faith
• He may not have the right cycle of friends

. . . and there may be a gazillion small things about him that add up together to make the relationship less appealing than it was at the beginning.

Here's where love is a battlefield.

What will you do? Will you give up the relationship or stand up for love?

• Will you defend your love and stick with him despite his shortcomings?
• Will you abandon him when the going gets tough?

The decision is yours to make.

Whatever you decide to do, remember that love is a battlefield. Keep the relationship if you can live with his shortcomings.

However, if his lifestyle is fundamentally different from yours, and it is against your sense of right, then forget the relationship.

Want love?

Don't rush into a love relationship. Take your time.

Once you're in, you're in for good. So don't rush things. Ascertain that he's the right man for you. Be sure you're compatible. Be sure he will be there for you in the face of trials and tribulation.

Love is a battlefield. So prepare yourself. Start by picking the right partner.

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Some tips to get your husband back

The shift in the dynamic of a marriage can occur very slowly over time. In fact, some women don’t recognize the change in how their husbands feel until they hear from him that he’s not sure he’s still in love. It’s devastating to hear this if you think that everything is good in the relationship. Naturally many couples decide to separate and eventually divorce when the husband has a change of feelings. This isn’t the only solution though. There are steps you can take to get your husband to love you again.

Most women want to solve relationship problems as soon as they pop up. If you know that your husband is feeling differently about you it’s natural to want to talk through things with him. You want to know what went wrong and what you can do now to get your husband to love you again. The reality is that your husband may need time to think. Men, regardless of how long they’ve been married, become irritated when the woman in their lives won’t give them the space they need. If your husband tells you that he needs some space, give it to him. He’ll appreciate that you respect his need for it, and it will show him how much you value him.

One very important thing to do if you want to get your husband to love you again is to try and determine when things changed between you. In most relationships the shift in feelings is a very gradual one, but it did begin somewhere. It may have been after you had children or when he started a new job that caused him extra stress. If you can retrace the steps back to that point, you can rebuild the relationship. Address any problems you two are having and commit to compromise. If you want to get close to your husband again you have to put any negativity aside and embrace what is right about the relationship.

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Why do we look for partner?

Why do two people love each other? Why do we need someone to love? Why cannot we love ourselves and exist alone? And what is that chemistry that a couple loves each other? Why both should love each other, and no body else? Love is truly a mystery.

The first reason is of course the passion one feels for the other. Call it hormones, mind, heart, emotions or whatever, one falls in love with another person and cannot live without him/her. Physical beauty is not the sole criteria in romantic passionate love. A very beautiful girl can passionately fall in love with an ordinary looking man to the surprise of all. There is something more that is yet to be explored. Ask a lover about why he/she loves her beloved and you will never get a logical answer. Love does not measure qualities, nor sets any standards. Love happens.

Sometimes the love arises out of appreciation of qualities of the other. This love is different than romantic love, but can be equally magnetic. You may get attracted to some persons singing so much that you want to be with him/her at all times. It can be any quality, but it is the appreciation of quality that brings forth this love. In this case the love is passionate love with that quality.

In some cases two persons find so many things alike between each other that they believe they are soul mates. Made for each other, these lovers are bound by the common qualities. What ever may be the reason for falling in love, please fall in love because it is incomparable.

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Are you a true friend?

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Build Your Relation on solid foundation!

Where is the love is a question asked when a relationship fails. Breaking up is expensive. It rocks you to your very foundation.

So, instead of asking where is the love after your relationship fails, act now to avoid failure.

Really, that is what this entire web site is about. It's about doing the right things, following the right process to achieve lasting enduring relationship.

Unfortunately, the majority of people do not take the time

to really get to know their man before taking their love relationship to marriage level. And they pay dearly with what they cherish most . . . their heart, their joy and peace of mind.

Breaking up isn't for you. Where is the love isn't a question you should be asking. This site has prepared you to analyze your feelings and the man you want to spend your life with. This puts you way ahead of the majority who end up breaking up.

Consider this case.

A young African lady in her early twenties got married to a handsome gentleman resident in Europe with much rejoicing and merry making. It was an expensive wedding in a class of its own.

However, two weeks later, the marriage was over. You know why?

The husband claimed he had a dream within the first week of their marriage. He claimed a man spoke to him in the dream that the girl he was married to . . . his wife . . . wasn't really his. The visitor claimed he was the girl's husband in the spirit world.

The man woke up and concluded the marriage was over. They managed to pretend to be married another week, but no more.

Consider another case.

A lady got married to a young man against the wishes of her parents. Everything went well at first. They even had two kids. One day the man came home, packed a few things and said he was leaving. He didn't want the relationship anymore.

It sounded at first like a bad joke. But he went and never returned. The had sounded like a joke became stack reality. The woman was then saddled with caring for her kids. And she got a new tag . . . single mother.

Where is the love in these two instances?

True love defends its own. Love endures all things. No doubt you agree that love was missing in each of these cases. Wherever love is missing breaking up is inevitable. It may take time. But breaking up is certain.

Now it is clear as crystal. Where is the love isn't a question you should be asking. By the time you ask that question, you know it is too late.

So, in case you haven't noticed . . . love relationship is serious business. It's not something you rush into. Don't be in a hurry.

Build your love relationship on solid foundation. Then true love will flow naturally.

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Are you really ready for marriage?

You may say I really love him/her. But ask yourself: "Am I ready for the life long commitment?"

It is not a wise this to just jump into marriage as one know that he/she is not ready for the commitment. Marriage is a serious matter that involves physical, emotional, psychological & even spiritual well being. Divorce rate is on the high because 80% of married couples just run into marriage feeling that it's all about "been happy ever after".

To be ready for marriage, you need to know the following:

1. Self-examination

Examine why you want to get married. Are you seeking relief from a bad situation either at home or in school? One young girl confided in her partner: "I'll be so glad when we get married. Then I won't ever have to make any more decisions!" But rather than lessening your responsibility, marriage greatly increases it in the way you make life changing decisions.

Some have rushed into marriage without first making an "examination." But what "examination" should one make? You should look into your own heart and mind to see is you are really ready for this lifelong commitment. What are your goals in life? How will these be affected by marriage? You have to start thinking seriously about them because the responsibilities of marriage may practically preclude certain goals or careers you have.

2. Marriage is work

Many youths also fail to 'examine' the roles of husband and wife. Just like a normal designation in a work place where individual have it's own peculiar work schedule, so is marriage. Husbands and wife have their own peculiar work schedule, and out of love you add some too. For instance, a typical teenage bride, may says of her husband: "Now that we are married, the only time he acts interested in me is when he wants sex. He thinks his boyfriends are just as important to be with as I am. I thought I was going to be his one and only, but was I fooled"! Did her husband realize that being a husband meant he would have to stop playing the role of a single person?

If need to show and make a balance of you're your marriage life physically, emotionally and otherwise which includes financial too.

3. Maturity is need

Maturity is more evident than in how you get along with others-primarily those with whom you live. Learning how to handle disagreement without damaging the other person or your relationship with that one is a valuable lesson to learn. And this takes maturity. Having insight and knowing how, when and a where you ought to give an answer to each other.

To some, this problem can seem like impassable mountains. However, matured people have a different perspective to life in general than youths. They have already 'climbed some mountains in life' and are emotionally prepared to deal with such problems like this. So have you truly put away "those childish traits" and "become full-grown in your powers of understanding"? then if you have, you have won the war on maturity.

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Possessiveness can end your relation!

Possess means to own.Can we own our partner? ,Their time... Are they our slaves? If you ask anybody these questions, you will hear a definite no. But some of those who say no may be very possessive about their partner. The Relationship breaks down after sometime hurting both the partners very badly.

Why are some people so possessive? Is that a complex of some kind? Are they afraid that their partner may be snatched away by somebody else? Or do they want their partner to spend all the time with them and no body else? Suppose you come across some emails of your partner. Would you look at them? Would you then ask your partner about the mails? What if your partner is late on a day? Are you happy to see them back or you are angry about their coming late?

If your partner is speaking on phone in a low voice, does that make you feel suspicious? Do you suspect that they may be speaking with their past lover? If someone sends an invitation to your partner for some party, do you insist that they should not go alone? Those who are possessive will try to control every minute of their partner’s life. They never allow the partner to use anything gifted to them by anybody else. They do not want the partner to talk about the past. They rather hate that. They treat themselves as the superior of their partner and try and control every activity. In the end the partner refuses to take this any more and the relationship breaks-up.

To love somebody is a great feeling. But the result of love should be pleasure for both the partners. If one partner feels like an animal in cage, that is not true love.

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Things you should never say to your wife.

1. You never
This is a blanket statement that is almost always false. What's the first thought that's going to enter your spouse's mind when you say this? That's right, your spouse is going to remember all those times when they DID put the dishes away, clean the toilet, make dinner, buy orange juice, or whatever it is you're accusing them of not doing. Even if you're right, this is not a productive thing to say. It's going to put your spouse on the defensive.

2. "You jerk/nag/bastard/bitch!"
I shouldn't have to explain why insulting your partner like this is completely disrespectful, abusive, and childish. You're both grownups now (hopefully), and you should be capable of having an argument that doesn't resort to name-calling. You shouldn't call your husband or wife names, and you shouldn't have to put up with it from them.

3. "Just calm down."
Telling someone to chill or calm down always seems to have the opposite effect. "Calm down?! Who are you to tell me to calm down!" Probably the main reason why most people react negatively to being told to calm down is because it's a way of saying that their feelings are wrong or irrational. As a rule, most people don't respond well to this sort of implication.

4. "You look terrible/fat/ridiculous/etc."
This is especially important for guys to avoid. Most women are sensitive about their looks, and you are going to lose serious brownie points if you tell your wife that she looks fat or that her black nightgown makes her look like a witch. Besides, if she IS fat, I promise you that she already knows; she doesn't need your confirmation.

That's only a small sampling of the things you should avoid saying to your spouse. Everyone has their "hot buttons," so it's a good idea to pay close attention to how your words affect your partner... and make note of what to avoid saying in the future.

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How can i save my marriage?

I want to save my marriage ,can you help me ? It's a common question, phrased in countless different ways. I often have people who are interested in making things work ask me for advice. Here are three rock-solid recommendations that might help you if you're dealing with marital difficulties.

First, make sure you really want to save your marriage in the first place. That might seem silly (after all, you are already reading this article), but it's important. There are some marriages that probably shouldn't be prolonged. That includes situations where abuse (either physical or emotional) is present and other so-called "toxic" relationships. In most cases, marriages can be saved. In some situations, though, it might be a decent idea to move on to greener pastures.
Assuming you do want to save your marriage, the next thing to remember is the need for a really good plan of action. You can't rely purely on gut instinct or on your hunches. You aren't a professional and flying by the seat of your pants certainly hasn't worked so far!

Now is the time to take action, but that action also needs to be smart. That means following a good blueprint devised by professionals in the field who make it their lives work to understand how to save marriages.

Finally, please remember that "I'm saving my marriage" is a statement that only gets at half of the overall situation. Yes, you certainly do need to save your marriage from divorce. However, stopping divorce is only part of your real objective. You don't just want to save a marriage or stop a divorce--you also want to improve your relationship.

Your end goal is to build a stronger, more loving, more stable marriage that meets your expectations and needs--the kind of relationship you really deserve. That's one reason why it's such a good idea to start with a good plan that recognizes the difference between real progress and relationship band-aids.

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Some golden rules to renew your relationship

When a relationship

begins, everything looks rosy. The communication is great. Verbal and non-verbal communication between the partners is superlative. The partners plan about the future together and love.

everything that the other person does. They find their partner smart and good-looking. Everything looks very good and no body can imagine that the relationship may suffer. But that happens in most of the cases. Why does this happen and what to do to renew the relationship? Follow these golden rules to revive your relationship.

Express love-

Begin saying i love you as often as possible. Let your partner feel the love again. This expression of love will bring the spark of affection back in your life.

Appreciate-

You may hate your partner more than loving them. But find out what you love about them. Do you like the way they dress? Do you like the way they drive? Do you like the way they talk? Do you like the way they communicate during tough times? Find out the smallest thing you like about your partner and appreciate them about that. This has a multiplier effect. When we begin disliking a person, our mind focuses on everything that is wrong. When we like a person, we ignore all wrongs and notice only the good points. This will help you ignite the spark in your dead relationship.

Thank-

Stop complaining and begin thanking your partner. No one likes to hear complains every day. They also have their complains. Stop complaining and start saying Thanks for all that your partner does for you. You may say that there is nothing to thank for, but still try and find a reason to say -Thank you. That will bring immediate change and you will notice it.

Discuss Their Problems-

Talk with your partners about his/her problems. Become a genuine friend and find out what is troubling them. That will make your partner feel that you are concerned. When you listen to their problems, you may find lot of truth in that. Try to do what ever you can to solve the problems and never let your partner feel lonely.

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How to win your love again?

Do you want to win your love back? Are you sad that your partner has broken up and do you want their love again? My advice is that unless you are very sad do not try that. If you think that life is becoming difficult without your partner then let us see what you can do.

Reflect upon the period preceding the breakup. Did you change towards your partner? Were you less attentive or less loving? Were you taking your love for granted? Think about all the mistakes you may have committed. If you find that you were not the reason, then better give up the idea. You can only do something about lost love, if you caused it. If you find that you were probably the reason then arrange a meeting and apologize for all your mistakes. Promise never to do same thing again. You may probably win your love back.

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Give value to your relation

Most of us believe that our relationship is most important to us. Some of us will say that it is more important than career and job. But is that true? The fact is that sadly this is not true. A small poem written by Ella Wheeler Wilcox speaks of this very eloquently-

There’s one sad truth in life I’ve found
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.

Why do we hurt those who love us most? Is that because we believe that they will always remain with us despite however we behave? Or do we think that they are the people who are meant to be our punching bags to take out our frustration? We need to ask only one question- what if this relationship breaks down? Once we know about the pain we will feel after break down, we will begin valuing what we have much more than what we are doing.

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Meaning of kiss

Kiss on the hand - I adore you.

Kiss on the cheek - I just want to be friends.

Kiss on the chin - You are cute!

Kiss on the neck - I want you.

Kiss on the lips - I love you.

Kiss on the ears - Let’s have some fun.

Kiss anywhere else - You’re the best.

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How to win your love again?

Do you want to win your love back? Are you sad that your partner has broken up and do you want their love again? My advice is that unless you are very sad do not try that. If you think that life is becoming difficult without your partner then let us see what you can do.

Reflect upon the period preceding the breakup. Did you change towards your partner? Were you less attentive or less loving? Were you taking your love for granted? Think about all the mistakes you may have committed. If you find that you were not the reason, then better give up the idea. You can only do something about lost love, if you caused it. If you find that you were probably the reason then arrange a meeting and apologize for all your mistakes. Promise never to do same thing again. You may probably win your love back.

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Does religion should be the foundation of relationship?

Many people believe that relationships and marriages should have a religious foundation. They also believe that it is important that the individuals in the relationship follow the same faith. They
(Christians) often refer to the statement from the Christian Bible that couples need to be “equally yoked”. Of course, the definition of being “equally yoked” is debatable. Personally, I believe that
if two people have the same morals, values, life ambitions and goals, they are equally yoked.

While I was reading an article the other day, my interest in marital problems was peeked when the author recommended that before couples are married, they should study each other’s credit report. I know that it has been established that the number one cause of divorce in this Country is money issues. But I thought that pulling each other’s credit report was a little much. However, the article did start me to thinking about other causes of relationship and/or marriage breakups. After a
little research, I discovered that religion was very high on the list of causes. This surprised me because I know that marriage existed long before established religion as we know it today. Even though we relate marriage to civil government and to religion, people were getting married long before either institution existed. In the beginning marriage was about survival only. By forming relationships, individuals had a better chance of facing the many difficulties of ancient living. Also there was the issue of identifing who the children “belonged” to. I believe that people have always held beliefs related to faith, but we must not forget that placed in the prospective of man’s total existence on Earth, established religion as we know it is a recent creation.

I am admittedly not a religious person. I do however consider myself a very spiritual person. The difference between religious people and me is that I do not follow any Book. I believe in God and at times have even given consideration to the acceptance of angels and miracles. I mention
this because I have had relationships with women with a lot of different faiths. The reason for our brake ups were never related to religion. I explained my beliefs to them and promised to never interfere with their faith. I think that relationship or marital problems between couples are mostly the result of one or both individuals attempting to convert the other person. That is a no, no.

Religion became associated with marriage only after one of its many historical moves to gain control of the people. After a while, people begin to accept this association as the natural other of things. That is
understandable since the Church was once the most powerful institution on earth. The historical power play of separation of Religion and State resulted from governments developing a desire for that power for themselves. Control of the institution of marriage was a logical target for civil institutions.

After civil institutions gained control of marriage by connecting it to “Law” people begin to believe that marriage could not be defined by religion. People decided that they would not allow religion to dictate who they should marry, for a while people put behind the idea that they need to marry someone
within the same religion or within the same sub-set of the religion.

The fact is that many people don’t have the same beliefs even if they claim to follow the exact religion. Still, religion has re-established its association with marriage. The Church has established a traditional role in sanctifying marriages and presiding over wedding ceremonies. Consequently, no one questions religion’s relationship to marriage. Let’s be clear, nature taught us about forming relationships and getting marriage. Religion reiterates to us what nature has taught us, but the lesson does not belong
to them. Whether two individuals have the same faith should not cause a problem as long as they love one another, and work toward the same goals. If couples do this, instead of problems they will surly see a miracle happen in their lives.

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Can anybody forget E-X relationship while getting into new

Can anybody forget E-X relationship while getting into new

i did everything to save relation. I gave in a lot, but I could not save. We will be breaking-up soon. That has already broken my heart. This relationship was made brick by brick over so many years. What all we did not do to make it last? But alas, we are breaking -up. This is a typical statement from a person facing break-up. How to survive after a break-up? Will you survive a break-up? Why not quiz yourself about it?

The immediate effect of the break-up would be pain. Will you be able to take the pain? The pain would go away slowly over a number of years, but the initial impact will be high. You will have to gather all your energy and tolerate the pain.

The second effect would be bitterness and blame. You will non stop think about the behavior of your ex partner and fix blame everywhere. You will recap all the arguments and fights and there will be a large amount of self-talk about how you were ditched. That will not be a pleasant experience. You will have to find way out of all this by spending quality time with friends, involving you in new activities, and keep yourself busy. Are you ready for that?

The major effect would be the temptation to join immediately with anew partner. This can work both the ways. Some people never wish to form a relationship again after undergoing the trauma, while some want to form a relationship as soon as possible to forget the earlier one. Both of theses choices carry danger. The best alternative is to wait for sometime and when you find your stability and self esteem back, try and form another relationship. Are you ready for this?

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I want to save my marriage

I want to save my marriage ,can you help me ? It’s a common question, phrased in countless different ways. I often have people who are interested in making things work ask me for advice. Here are three rock-solid recommendations that might help you if you’re dealing with marital difficulties.

First, make sure you really want to save your marriage in the first place. That might seem silly (after all, you are already reading this article), but it’s important. There are some marriages that probably shouldn’t be prolonged. That includes situations where abuse (either physical or emotional) is present and other so-called “toxic” relationships. In most cases, marriages can be saved. In some situations, though, it might be a decent idea to move on to greener pastures.
Assuming you do want to save your marriage, the next thing to remember is the need for a really good plan of action. You can’t rely purely on gut instinct or on your hunches. You aren’t a professional and flying by the seat of your pants certainly hasn’t worked so far!

Now is the time to take action, but that action also needs to be smart. That means following a good blueprint devised by professionals in the field who make it their lives work to understand how to save marriages.

Finally, please remember that “I’m saving my marriage” is a statement that only gets at half of the overall situation. Yes, you certainly do need to save your marriage from divorce. However, stopping divorce is only part of your real objective. You don’t just want to save a marriage or stop a divorce–you also want to improve your relationship.

Your end goal is to build a stronger, more loving, more stable marriage that meets your expectations and needs–the kind of relationship you really deserve. That’s one reason why it’s such a good idea to start with a good plan that recognizes the difference between real progress and relationship band-aids.

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Over possessiveness can break your relation

To possess means to own. Do we own our partner? Do we own their time? Are they our slaves? If you ask anybody these questions, you will hear a definite no. But some of those who say no may be very possessive about their partner. The relationship breaks down after sometime hurting both the partners very badly.

Why are some people so possessive? Is that a complex of some kind? Are they afraid that their partner may be snatched away by somebody else? Or do they want their partner to spend all the time with them and no body else? Does suspicion come in to picture? Suppose you come across some emails of your partner. Would you look at them? Would you then ask your partner about the mails? What if your partner is late on a day? Are you happy to see them back or you are angry about their coming late? Do you demand the explanation for being late?

If your partner is speaking on phone in a low voice, does that make you feel suspicious? Do you suspect that they may be speaking with their past lover? If someone sends an invitation to your partner for some party, do you insist that they should not go alone? Those who are possessive will try to control every minute of their partner’s life. They never allow the partner to use anything gifted to them by anybody else. They do not want the partner to talk about the past. They rather hate that. They treat themselves as the superior of their partner and try and control every activity. In the end the partner refuses to take this any more and the relationship breaks-up.

To love somebody is a great feeling. But the result of love should be pleasure for both the partners. If one partner feels like an animal in cage, that is not true love.

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I love you in 100 different languages

English - I love you

Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief

Albanian - Te dua

Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)

Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)

rmenian - Yes kez sirumen

Bambara - M’bi fe

Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi

Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu

Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo

> Bulgarian - Obicham te

Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah

Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a

> Catalan - T’estimo

Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse

Chichewa - Ndimakukonda

Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)

Creol - Mi aime jou

Croatian - Volim te

Czech - Miluji te

Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig

Dutch - Ik hou van jou

Esperanto - Mi amas vin

Estonian - Ma armastan sind

Ethiopian - Afgreki’

Faroese - Eg elski teg

Farsi - Doset daram

Filipi no - Mahal kita

Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua

French - Je t’aime, Je t’adore

Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort

Georgian - Mikvarhar

German - Ich liebe dich

> Greek - S’agapo

Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo

Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw

Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia oi

Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)

Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)

Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw

Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae

Hmong - Kuv hlub koj

Hopi - Nu’ umi unangwa’ta

Hungarian - Szeretlek

Icelandic - Eg elska tig

Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw

Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu

Inuit - Negligevapse

Irish - Taim i’ ngra leat

Italian - Ti amo

Japanese - Aishiteru

Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene

Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka

Kiswahili - Nakupenda

Konkani - Tu magel moga cho

Korean - Sarang Heyo

Latin - Te amo

Latvian - Es tevi miilu

Lebanese - Bahibak

Lithuanian - Tave myliu

Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu

Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu

Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni

Marathi - Me tula prem karto

Mohawk - Kanbhik

Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik

Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh’ni

Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg

Pandacan - Syota na kita!!

Pangasinan - Inaru Taka

Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo

Persian - Doo-set daaram

Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay

Polish - Kocham Ciebie

Portuguese - Eu te amo

Romanian - Te ubesk

Russian - Ya tebya liubliu

Scot Gaelic - Tha gradh agam ort

Serbian - Volim te

Setswana - Ke a go rata

Sign Language - ,\,,/ ( represents position of fingers when signing ‘I Love You’ )

Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan

Sioux - Techihhila

Slovak - Lu`bim ta

Slovenian - Ljubim te

Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe

Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di

Tagalog - Mahal kita

Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li

Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe

Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen

Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu

Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)

Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)

Turkish - Seni Seviyorum

Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu

Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo

Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)

Welsh - ‘Rwy’n dy garu

Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh

Yoruba - Mo ni fe

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Intimacy in Love.Everyone looks for it.

Intimacy means a close relationship where both the partners are highly satisfied. To be intimate means that you reveal yourself totally to your partner, hide nothing and feel very comfortable and free. it is like talking to yourself. You become so close and are so sure of your relationship that you talk to your partner as if you are talking to yourself. This kind of relationship has great joy and gives a new meaning to relationships. Now a days relationships are getting confined to physical and emotional needs are not being met. Are you also looking for intimate relationship? Why not quiz yourself about that?

Quiz your needs? Do you feel comfortable in an intimate relationship? Do you feel absence of intimate relationship? When you look at pictures of happy and intimate couples, do you feel little envious? Do you wish that you also had an intimate relationship? Or you feel comfortable as you are and do not want any one to come within your personal space. Do you wish to share others pains and pleasures or want to keep away from details and in a boundary? These are the questions that only you can answer. Please quiz yourself about these needs. This quiz will tell you about your deep felt needs and tell you what will satisfy you. Also quiz yourself if what you are thinking will truly give you joy?

Begin with small steps and watch the results. If you are happy with the initial results, please go deeper in the relationship and enjoy life.

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How we can Argue ?

In any relationship, disagreements are bound to come up at one time or another. How you and your partner handle differences of opinion may strengthen or destroy your relationship.I Remember on thought “The worls happiest lovers never have the same characters,they just have the better understading of their differences”

When you find that both of you are arguing constantly then its time to evaluate your relationship,need to talk a lot about agreement and disagreements.

If you have come up with this situation then help others also to come up with this situation.

what are the ways to dealt with this situation? Share with us !

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Places to kiss your love

Places to Kiss Your Love

• Behind their ear.
• Tip of their nose.
• Back of their neck.
• Underside of their forearm.
• Curve of their waist.
• Palm of their hand.
• Inside their wrist.
• Under their chin.
• Their eyelids.
• Inside of their ankle.
• Their collar bone.
• Tips of their fingers.
• Their spine.
• Small of their back.
• Their tummy.
• Behind their knees.

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10 Best things to do to get your wives in your arms

There are so many things that you don’t say to your wives ,But what you say most of the time are the wrong things they may be arguments etc,what if you can rewarded for the normal things.

So here are 10 things you can say to your wife that will get your share price up!

1. I love you. (OK, if you don’t, then remember that love is not a feeling, but a decision. Make the decision and say the words! After all, you made the decision when you got married.)

2. Yes my love, I’ll fix it right now.

3. Choose a bodily feature that you have always liked, and compliment her on it. For example, “Your eyes are really beautiful.” Look for some new things you can compliment her on too.

4. When she does something right, like make a nice supper, tell her “This is really, really good! You’re a star!”

5. When you find her talking to a younger woman that you don’t know, ask her “Were you in school with that lady? Not? Oh, you looked about the same age..”

6. When she’s got a nice perfume on, tell her “You smell like heaven!”

7. You are my best friend.

8. I’m going to do the dishes for you; no arguments.

9. I’m taking you out for coffee and muffins.

10. I’m going to clean my garage out today. (It may take a week or three, but the mere mention of this task will get you into the pound seats with your wife.

A happy wife is a creative wife, a good cook, and a good friend. It is really worth our while to make our wives happy. It takes quite a bit of hard work, and generosity, and humility. But it pays off.

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