Love is battle field

Love is a battlefield. Only lovers who are prepared to give up everything for love find love and keep it.

It's so easy to fall in love. You meet somebody today, within a few hours you're into each other. Within a few days you're madly in love.

But how long will the love relationship last?

Only time can tell.

For most people, however, their love come crashing down when they run into obstacles. The excitement of the love relationship wears so fast you would think it was a game.

No, it wasn't a game. It just couldn't stand the test of trials.

Naturally you're tempted to ask . . . why do many love relationships hit the rocks even before they begin?

The simple reason is this . . . many people falling in love fail to recognize that love is a battlefield.

What does that mean?

It simply means that love is not a bed of roses.

When two people fall in love, it usually happens on a good day . . . a day when they both are at their best. Occasionally, it happens on a bad day . . . a day when either or both of them is facing a challenge or dilemma.

When you fall in love on a good day, the term "love is a battlefield" may not mean much to you.

It's a good day, remember?

You run into this girl one bright afternoon with all the conditions right and you fall in love. On that day she looks like an angel straight from heaven.

You probably wouldn't pause for a moment and ask, "Suppose she's not Miss Right?"

As far as you're concerned, you've found the woman of your dreams and that's all you care about. Life couldn't be better.

Months roll by quickly and you begin to see the real person behind the face. Then you realize this part of her wasn't part of your fantasy and you decide to breakup the relationship.

What happens when you meet her on a bad day?

You still could fall in love with her. In fact, that bad temper of hers may actually impress you especially if it accomplishes something good at that moment.

For example, her anger at someone taking advantage of a less privileged person may establish her with you as someone who stand for justice and fair play.

You may admire her for that. Soon that admiration can grow into love.

But when you begin to spend more time together, her uncontrolled temper may begin to get on your nerves. It may get to a point where you can't take it anymore.

Let's summarize this.

Love is a battlefield because not all your expectations for your love relationship will come true.

• Your parents may not like him because his social status is less than yours
• You may not like the fact that he snores annoyingly
• He may be financially challenged
• He may be physically challenged
• He may not speak your language
• He may not be from your country
• He may not be as polite as you desire
• He may be rude
• He may not share your faith
• He may not have the right cycle of friends

. . . and there may be a gazillion small things about him that add up together to make the relationship less appealing than it was at the beginning.

Here's where love is a battlefield.

What will you do? Will you give up the relationship or stand up for love?

• Will you defend your love and stick with him despite his shortcomings?
• Will you abandon him when the going gets tough?

The decision is yours to make.

Whatever you decide to do, remember that love is a battlefield. Keep the relationship if you can live with his shortcomings.

However, if his lifestyle is fundamentally different from yours, and it is against your sense of right, then forget the relationship.

Want love?

Don't rush into a love relationship. Take your time.

Once you're in, you're in for good. So don't rush things. Ascertain that he's the right man for you. Be sure you're compatible. Be sure he will be there for you in the face of trials and tribulation.

Love is a battlefield. So prepare yourself. Start by picking the right partner.