Be careful! Don’t let your friendship to move towards emotional affair.

You might wonder about the difference between friendship and emotional affair. Does an emotional affair help a Relationship by letting a partner letting out all emotional frustration and misunderstandings , which otherwise they would have done with his/her partner? Does it kill the relationship? How to know if a friendship is proceeding towards and emotional affair?

There is a short story of my best friend manoj and his wife shanti.A lovely couple. They were in love from schooldays and after few years they felt that it was time to cement the relationship by living together and having children. The first few months of their life together was smooth but as time passed the strain of living together started showing up? They were trying to sort out the issues, but during that time shanti happened to meet her school friend sagar.

sagar was a good Friend of shanti in the schooldays and shanti used to take his advice for all her problems. When shanti met sagar she thought that she should talk to sagar about her relationship with manoj. She should have not done that at all. She was already trying to sort out her issues talking with manoj and she should have continued talking to manoj only. But after talking to manoj it looked as if manoj was the opposition to shanti.

Rather than understanding each other positively now after having one person in favour they are now more aggressively fighting on the misunderstandings to prove each other wrong. This began changing equations of the relationship. Shanti’s relationship with sagar slowly changed to emotional relationship and ultimately she broke away with Manoj. A relationship was destroyed because shanti crossed a boundary. She discussed something very personal with sagar. In any relationship, the issues of relationship should never be discussed with anybody else unless the break up looks imminent. Shanti was a friend of sagar. sagar should have never been allowed to enter the issues of her relationship with manoj. If you are making any such blunder, please avoid and save your relationship.